Good Words

Sermon 10/22/2006

It Is Not So Among You ~ by Reverand Thomas Cary Kinder
October 22, 2006, Seventh Sunday after Pentecost
First Congregational Church in Thetford, Vermont, UCC
Psalm 91; Mark 10:35-45

The Latin root of the word religion means both to bind together and to go back over again. We need religion to bind us and hold us together in a world where we sometimes fail to love our neighbor and where things fall apart. We need religion to lead us back over eternal truths again and again in a world where we can get lost and forget the sacred way.

If your life is perfect, maybe you do not need religion. But if you struggle and suffer, or if you have compassion for the suffering of others, then religion can help you hold together and find your way to peace.

Sometimes people go through life with no use for religion, as if their life were perfect and everything under their own control, only to have an awakening as they face their death. They suddenly realize how foolish they have been.

But until some challenge or revelation comes along and teaches us humility, religion is what looks foolish. The wisdom of the world seems common sense, the teachings of Jesus seem nonsense, unless we have fully admitted to ourselves how lost and out of control the world and we truly are.

This is why earlier in the service, I asked you to reflect on whether you trust in God. Trust is important because the religion of Jesus Christ asks us to do things that it takes deep trust to believe and do. Sometimes we have to face death or hit rock bottom before we become convinced to let go of our old ways and trust entirely in the foolishness of Christ.

If you are part of a Twelve Step group like Alcoholics Anonymous, you know all about this. You know you can’t change until you see your problem. You know that the key to success is coming to trust that God’s higher power can restore you to well being, a trust so complete that you make the decision to hand over the care of your entire life and even your will to that higher power. There is a saying in Twelve Step groups that goes something like this: “It’s easy—all you have to change is everything.”

This is essentially what Jesus was saying to his disciples in today’s gospel passage. James and John asked if they could be Jesus’ right and left hand men when Jesus came into his glory as Messiah. They did not mean in heaven. James and John clearly thought Jesus was going to become the Messianic king of Israel, sitting on the throne in Jerusalem. They were asking to be his Vice President or Secretary of State or White House Chief of Staff. When the other disciples heard what James and John had asked, they were upset—not because James and John asked for the wrong thing, but because all the disciples wanted the same thing. They were jealous. They all wanted the power and glory of sitting nearest the throne.

Jesus responded first by saying that the positions of honor are not given out according to whom you know or how you do, as they are in secular society—they are given out by the will and wisdom of God. From what we saw of God in the life of Jesus, that probably means that those who are last and least in our society are most likely to be favored in God’s realm.

Then Jesus went even farther. He said that the entire paradigm, the entire pattern on which society is based is backwards and upside down. If we want to follow the way of Christ and dwell in the goodness of God’s realm, we have to change our entire way of thinking and living. Instead of trying to get ahead and to be in control, the point is to serve, to be the slave of all. Jesus showed this way with his life and death, as well as his words. And he asks us just as he asks James and John, “Are you able to drink the cup that I drink, or be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with?” Are you able to change everything? Are you able to crucify your self-concern in order to be free to serve?

Most of us, most of the time, do not realize how much of our life is aimed toward gaining what we want. Most of the time it is hard to see the harm in our daily little pursuits of gain or pleasure or self-advancement. They seem innocent enough. But a 5th Century Christian teacher named Mark the Ascetic saw great danger in them. He spent forty years challenging and observing these impulses in himself and others and wrote many teachings on them that are still valued today in the Orthodox church. He said that self-concern and the desire for sensual pleasure and the strivings for gain that they inspire all serve to make our spirit blind. We lose sight of spiritual wisdom and perspective when we are in a self-concerned mode. We fail to see what the love of God or the love of neighbor would have us do. We ask not how we can serve but how can we be served.

Mark the Ascetic saw that greed, lust and pride—all the desires arising from our selfishness—lead from neglect of others to jealousy or envy, and then to anger, and eventually to the extreme of war—the kind of war that is a grabbing of what others have and a shoving of others out of our way, or the kind that is revenge for our hurt pride or injured self-interest. Wars between nations begin in our smallest individual anxious scrambling to put ourselves above others.

The society that Jesus came to create is non-violent. It is God’s realm on earth—the realm of mercy and justice, sufficiency and peace for all. The only way to create such a society is to turn our old ways upside down, and instead of trying to get ahead of others, seek to serve them. “Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for you country,” as President Kennedy said. Or ask not how the world can serve America, but how America can serve the world. This is the kind of society the church is called to be and called to try to create around itself.

But even within the church we can find our long established habits at work. An anonymous minister has written about his own experience. Once when he had gone back to get his doctorate between churches, he went to a Good Friday service, just walking in off the street to a random city church. He noticed after a few minutes that he was feeling tense and a sense of dissatisfaction. Part of his mind was trying to be moved by the suffering and self-sacrifice of Christ, but he saw that another part of his mind was busy making judgments, naming and scorning the faults of the clergy leading worship.

And that wasn’t all. He realized that another part of him was jealous. Part of him wanted to be the one up there leading this grand, well-attended urban cathedral.

But that wasn’t the worst. He saw with horror that another part of him really wanted to have the whole service be about him. It wanted nothing less than to be Jesus himself, the Son of God, the object of worship.

He was horrified, but as he walked home through the cold streets he also saw what a gift he had received at that service. It had shown him exactly the part of him that Jesus was asking him to crucify. He saw the largely unconscious impulses that he had to let go in order to be truly like Jesus Christ, the humble, suffering, all-sacrificing servant of all.

William Sloane Coffin’s wife, Randy, used to get mad at Bill because every vacation he would get increasingly grumpy. Finally she realized what the problem was and she was able to laugh about it. Bill was suffering from “applause deprivation,” as she called it. Bill was one of the kindest, humblest, and most self- giving of Christ’s servants, but even the saints struggle to live in this world by the absolutely selfless standards Jesus asks of us. The saints teach that there is always more we can do to empty ourselves of self-concern and make ourselves more fully available to love and serve God and neighbor. This truth is at the core of our life- long spiritual practice. It is called continuous metanoia, or the continuous changing and reorienting of our heart, mind and spirit.

Jesus described the typical society where people try to get ahead of one another, and then he said, “It is not so among you.” He said to his disciples, ‘You do not live by society’s rules.’ Was he joking? Was he being sarcastic? His disciples had just proven how sadly it was so among them. What did he mean, “It is no so among you?”

Maybe he meant to give them an emancipation proclamation. “It is not so among you.” You are free. I release you from the pressure, the obligation, the rat race of greed and lust and pride, of winning and ruling, of being in control. I release you into the freedom and joy of servanthood.

We end the sermon as we began, asking, do we trust Jesus? Do we trust him enough to accept this freedom and this joy? Do we trust that the way to the realm of God, the path to the realm of peace and unconditional love—the path to the best possible life on earth—passes through the door of selfless servanthood? Do we trust enough to try that? If so, all we need change is everything. All we need to do is turn our entire life and will over to God’s care, and let go and let God lead.

Don’t worry about how huge or impossible that sounds. The wisdom of the Twelve Step movement has another famous saying: “One day at a time.” One moment, one thought, one action at a time. That is all we have to change. Just everything in this second. For this second we release all our old, fretful self- interested ways and focus entirely on the servant way of Christ. Just for this second we let the way of Christ be everything to us. That’s all. And then we do it again. And again. And again, every moment of our life. That is the spiritual path Christ calls us to take—the sacred way to freedom and joy and a world at peace.

Let us pray in silence, turning our hearts and minds in love and acceptance and trust to Jesus Christ, asking how we may change and how we may serve, and listening for his answer in our heart. See if you can feel the peace of God’s realm that comes when we hand our entire life and will over to God even for a few minutes. Let us pray…

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