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Sermon 05/24/2009

He Withdrew: Absence and Presence, Emptiness and Fullness ~ by Reverend Thomas Cary Kinder
May 24, 2009 Seventh Sunday of Easter, Ascension Sunday
First Congregational Church in Thetford, Vermont, UCC
Psalm 139; Acts 1:1-14; Luke 24:49-53

The Rev. Dick Devor told me recently that one of his favorite passages is: “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (I Thessalonians 5:16-18) This was also one of Dan Clouser’s favorite passages. Like Dick, Dan was a seminary graduate and scholar and professor. He was not a minister, but a philosopher and one of the founders of the field of medical ethics. I have quoted him often, telling us at Prayer of the Heart not long before he died that the only thing that he felt the need to say was, “Praise God!” He laughed as he told us that he sometimes had the urge to shout it out in the most unlikely public places.

If two such wise elders as Dick Devor and Dan Clouser tell us to “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing and give thanks in all circumstances,” we would be wise to shape up and do so.

But, of course, it is not an easy thing to do. Dan was still in the prime of life when he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. His suffering was real. His loss was huge. Dick Devor has suffered painfully himself in recent years, and shared in Nancy’s suffering. I know that neither Dick nor Dan always felt like rejoicing and giving thanks. Jesus himself wept and sweated blood in anguish. But the words of Paul stand as an ideal through even the worst of suffering and loss: rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances.

The disciples who followed Jesus did not live up to that perfect ideal any more than Jesus did. They responded to the arrest and crucifixion with fear and grief, they responded to the empty tomb with horror and suspicion, they responded to Christ’s resurrected body with terror and doubt. But something in them had changed by the end of the forty days after Easter during which Jesus appeared to them in the flesh. The book of Acts portrays no fear or grief, no horror or terror after Jesus’ ascension. It says they all “were constantly devoting themselves to prayer.” The book of Luke says the disciples returned from Bethany to Jerusalem after the ascension “with great joy, and they were continually in the temple blessing God.” Jesus withdrew, his absence as real and complete as when he died on the cross, his place among them as empty as his tomb, and yet this time they understood the loss as something to respond to by rejoicing always, praying without ceasing and giving thanks in all circumstances.

What happened? What had they learned? And can we learn a way of looking at life that enables us to feel the way Dan Clouser did in his final days of life, where despite impending absence, emptiness and loss, despite descending through darkness and death, we are filled with the impulse to say “Praise God!” in the check out line or at the gas pump, in our hospital bed or at the graveside of someone we love?

Of course, you may not want to rejoice always. You could argue that a God that allows suffering and death does not deserve praise or thanks. You could argue that the force of death must be fought at all times. You could quote the great poet, Dylan Thomas, who wrote in his most famous lines,

    Do not go gentle into that good night,
    Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

You could argue that given the situation on earth in this age, we need the spirit of the bumper sticker that says, “If you are not outraged, you are not paying attention!” This week’s New Yorker magazine (May 25, 2009) has another excellent and alarming article by Elizabeth Kolbert, entitled, “The Sixth Extinction? The Earth’s Species in Peril.” In it she describes the massive dying off of species like frogs and bats that is taking place right now, and the rapid environmental changes that our way of life has set in motion that are bringing this great dying about like a runaway train—a global extinction that seems likely to join the ranks of the five worst cataclysms in the four and a half billion year history of the planet.

Or maybe you do not need to look at global problems, maybe you have plenty enough things you love that are endangered in your own life.

As you contemplate the forces of darkness and death, do you choose to “Rage, rage against the dying of the light,” or “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances?” The great poet, Dylan Thomas, felt one was right; the great pastor and apostle, Paul, thought the other right. Which do you feel is the right thing to do ethically and morally and practically? What would be the wiser course to take to save what we love, to keep love alive?

The disciples lived in a very different time, in some ways. Yet they, too, suffered loss and hardship and death, and they, too, feared that the end of the world was near. Jesus was their one hope of changing and saving the world. They despaired when the empire nailed him to a cross. But only forty days later when Jesus left a second time, they were rejoicing and praying and giving thanks.

I think what happened in those mysterious post-Easter encounters with Christ was that they came to experience as true the affirmations we read together from Psalm 139:

O God…where can I go from your spirit?
Or where can I flee from your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, you are there;
if I make my bed in Sheol, you are there.
If I take the wings of the morning
and settle at the farthest limits of the sea,
Even there your hand shall lead me,
and your right hand shall hold me fast.
If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,
and the light around me become night,”
Even the darkness is not dark to you;
the night is as bright as the day,
for darkness is as light to you.

The disciples learned that even in that most devastating absence they could find God’s presence, and because of their emptiness, they could expect the Spirit’s fullness. They seem to have gained the wisdom that absence, emptiness and darkness are part of the realm of God, part of the goodness of God’s ordering of the universe, so they could not only accept loss, but rejoice and give thanks in it.

On Easter I quoted our former neighbor and worshipper here, Dr. George Vaillant, the psychoanalyst and researcher at Harvard University. In his book Spiritual Evolution: A Scientific Defense of Faith he observes that “without the pain of farewell there can be no joy in reunion. Without the pain of disapproval, there can be no joy in forgiveness. Without the pain of captivity, there is no joy in exodus. Thus, just as hope, love, forgiveness and compassion are all connected with suffering, so too is joy.” (p 131)

The most enlightened sages of all religions have come to this unified vision of reality that embraces opposites as both being essential parts of life. Without the fear that would stop us from doing the right thing, there can be no courage. Without the temptations of greed, lust and pride, there can be no virtues of self-restraint and humility. We live in a universe where darkness and death are essential to the existence of light and life.

Does that mean that we should rejoice and give thanks for the massive, global extinction now underway? Does it mean we should continue our materialistic, militaristic way of living that is causing so much suffering and death? Does it mean that we should do nothing to prevent the loss of what we love in our own lives? No, because while suffering, darkness and death are all necessary parts of God’s creation, every religion’s understanding of the great spirit or higher power that flows through the universe says that it is on the side of love and life and light.

To use the Star Wars language, there is a dark side to the force, and though the goal is not to eliminate it, we are called to bring it into balance with the light. But the balance point of the spirit and of God is not equal between darkness and light. It is always tipping the universe toward the side of love and life. Where there is suffering and death, the Holy Spirit brings comfort, guidance and the power to begin anew. Where there is absence of love, God’s love rushes in to fill us up. Any gardener with a compost pile understands that we need death to have life, but every gardener is in the business of serving and nurturing life, not death, and needs the balance to tip more toward life.

The Kentucky writer Wendell Berry tells a story about a young farmer sitting with his father looking out at the brown grass and thin cattle during a terrible drought. The son is in the Dylan Thomas mode of fearful raging against the dying. The father, though, has seen droughts before, and survived. He has seen the dead grass green up again, and the cattle fatten. His serenity born of experience teaches his son to wait patiently and trust. In the absence of what he longs for, in the darkness of loss, the son finds the unexpected presence of an enduring love and a guiding light.

Raging may have its place, but there are three compelling reasons to choose to rejoice always, pray without ceasing and give thanks in all circumstances. One is to affirm the faith that God’s love is the greatest force in the universe, and will turn even the worst calamity to the good. Another reason is that by choosing the positive path of rejoicing, praying and giving thanks, we take a powerful, nonviolent stand of resistance against the negative alternatives of craving, raging and fearing.

But the most important reason is that when we rejoice, pray and give thanks, we throw wide the gates of our heart, we empty ourselves of all defensive obstacles and all self-will and focus entirely on God, and though that exposes our open hearts to the pain of suffering and death, it also immerses us in the flow of God’s power. It makes us instruments of God’s power. We entrust our life and our will to God’s care, and let its current carry us through whatever trouble comes, and let its power flow through us. The more we do that, the more we learn that God will not leave us to be destroyed by loss and death. Nor will God abandon the earth. If we open ourselves to God, the Holy Spirit will come and use us to do Christ-like work on earth, promoting justice and mercy, healing and peace.

Hermon Hesse was echoing the highest wisdom of all ages and faiths when he said, “Soft is stronger than hard, water stronger than rock, love stronger than violence.” It may be no accident that Dylan Thomas, who urged his father not to go gentle into the night and to rage against the dying of the light, himself lived a short, self-destructive life. As paradoxical as it may seem, gentleness and acceptance open our hearts to receive the power that can overcome the very hardships we are accepting, a power that cannot flow through the heart clenched with a fighting rage.

So as we face our suffering, our loss, our hardship, and as we look at a world situation that fills us with fear and the temptation to despair, the response we choose will make all the difference in our lives, and to some extent, in the future of the world. One man facing his untimely, unfair death with “Praise God” on his lips can make a difference with that small act that ripples far out beyond his time and place. One woman who struggles to keep praying through the fog of pain and morphine in the intensive care unit releases into the world a power that changes many more lives than just her own. People who have lost their spouses yet live on to let new life and love and light fill their emptiness and darkness, people who are heartbroken by war or environmental destruction and yet dedicate their lives to letting the Holy Spirit flow into and through their pain to make them instruments of peace—all the examples we can think of in this congregation and in the world of people striving to serve God and love even as they suffer—all these call to us to rejoice always, pray without ceasing and give thanks in all circumstances.

Jesus withdrew, leaving the world bereft. One after another, what we love most on this earth withdraws as well, and leaves us bereft. But if we faithfully endure absence, if we stay open to love, we will find God’s presence filling our emptiness and we will become part of the force that represents the greatest hope any individual life or any planet can have.

Let us do so now by entering the emptiness and darkness of silent prayer in the faith that God will fill it with love and light. Let us pray…


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